Men need more cuddles and kisses than women! Yes, you heard it right. A new study from the Kinsey Institute and Indiana University suggests that it is often men who desire lots of hugs, cuddles and other signs of physical affection from their partner. Not only that, the surprising findings suggest that while men are more likely than women to find comfort in cuddles women are more likely to find satisfaction in good sex. The findings shocked the researchers who expected otherwise.
‘The really useful message is, don’t make presumptions about the genders,’
study author Julia Heiman, a psychologist and the director of The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University, told Live Science. ‘Because there’s no way to be sure you’re going to be right in any way.’
After the analysis, the researchers found that men believe that tenderness is important for a long and healthy relationship, and that they are more likely to be happy in their relationships than their female counterparts.
For the study, the researchers looked at 1,009 heterosexual couples from the U.S., Brazil, Germany, Japan and Spain, all of whom had been in committed relationships for between one and 51 years. Half of the study’s participants, who were between the ages of 40 and 70, had been coupled for at least 25 years. All the participants were given to fill up a gender-specific questionnaire on sex and relationship-related topics that they were assured would not be shared with their partner. After the analysis, the researchers found that men believe that tenderness is important for a long and healthy relationship, and that they are more likely to be happy in their relationships than their female counterparts.
Partners’ orgasm matters for men.
Further, both men and women who reported frequent kissing and cuddling, sexual caressing by the partner, higher sexual functioning and frequent sex were more likely to report sexual satisfaction in the study. Men in the study also reported they felt it was important that their partners experienced orgasm, which may be a clue as to why those women surveyed were so satisfied.
‘Possibly, women become more satisfied over time because their expectations change, or life changes with the children grown,’ the Daily Mail quoted lead author Julia Heiman, director of the Kinsey Institute as saying. ‘On the other hand, those who weren’t so happy sexually might not be married so long.’
Culture makes the difference
The researchers also found different levels of sexual satisfaction in participants of different cultures. For instance, compared with the U.S. men, Japanese men were 2.61 times more sexual satisfied in their relationships. Likewise, Japanese and Brazilian women were more likely to report being satisfied sexually than Americans.
Dr. Heiman said, We recognize that relationship satisfaction and sexual satisfaction may not be the same thing for all couples, and in all cultures.
‘Our next step is to understand how one person’s health, physical affection and sexual experiences relate to the relationship happiness or sexual satisfaction of his or her partner.’
‘So we hope for more couple-centered than individual-centered understanding on relationship functioning and satisfaction.’
The findings are due to publish in August in the journal ‘Archives of Sexual Behavior.’
Author: Prince Damin